Monday, December 24, 2012

Christmas 2012

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from Unsettled TCK! 

Picture from the annual Christmas Fair in Alanya.

Mosque and a Christmas tree in harmony. Taken during the annual Christmas fair in Alanya.

Entrance to Alanya's annual Christmas Fair.

Trees, Santa, ships, shops, carol singers, and cookies at the annual Christmas Fair in Alanya.

I am currently spending Christmas with my Gentleman Friend (I'm experimenting with his label) in Alanya and even went to Antalya to spend a couple of days in the big city. This is also the home region of Saint Nicholas, so clearly I am having the ultimate Christmas experience. I started thinking back over the years and came up with a list of where I've spent previous Christmases. Crank up the Michael Buble Christmas album and enjoy:

1. Calcutta - I think... I was a baby!

2. Taiwan - Don't remember this one either.

3. Beijing - My first memory of snow. I wanted to preserve this cold, white goodness so I stuffed a whole bunch in a bucket and stuffed it into the freezer. This was not a well thought-out plan.

4. New Delhi - My brother convinced me he was Santa Claus and my Grandma gave me a cotton candy maker. Pretty much the greatest gift ever for a child.

5. Ohio - Traditional Christmas with my American family. Kids running amuck and adults trying to keep the peace and provide a delicious meal. 

6. Virginia - I got the first Harry Potter book for Christmas when I was eleven. I was crushed that I had already passed the age for receiving a Hogwarts letter. It was devastating.

7. Hong Kong - Many years spent in Hong Kong. Usually included some sort of extravagant buffet dinner and a whole lot of shopping.

8. Manila (and a few other cities in the Philippines) - The Philippines begins Christmas in October. It is quite an experience. If you spend it on an island then you are guaranteed lots of booze!

9. Xining - Ipad Christmas tree and a trip to Cafe Java (best cafe in the city). Here is my wonderful post from last year detailing my Christmas adventures: Happy Holidays from Xining (Yes, my love affair with Michael Buble has continued).

10. And now Alanya! - Already attended the annual Christmas Fair (post is forthcoming) and now planning on a (hopefully) fun-filled lunch with fellow expats. Best part is that I don't have to bake a turkey, which would be a bit of an over-kill for two people.

My tribute Calvin and Hobbes snowman that I made for Christmas in Virginia a couple of years ago.

Whether or not you celebrate, I wish you a wonderful winter season!

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Love of Airports

Herded to the arrivals gate after a bomb scare in Kota Kinabalu.

The most disorganized search ever in Kota Kinabalu.
I have a great affinity for airports. I don't know if this is a TCK thing or a just-me thing, but I love airports. Not all airports, of course. Some I merely endure long enough to get on a plane and escape. But, by and large, I feel very comfortable in airports. I don't enjoy checking-in or passport control or security, but I love what comes after. The shopping, the food, the drinks: everything that you can get away with at any time of day because you are traveling. Want that extra dessert because you are stressed? Go for it! Want a morning cocktail without a side of judgement? Airports support you! Want that trashy novel that you are dying to read but want no one else to ever know about? Some airport bookstores will even make a dust jacket for you so you can read free from shame. 

Growing up, airports were a point of stability for me. Filled with stress before and after, I relished the forced idle time that terminals provided. I have never minded spending extended amounts of time at the airport. When I travel, I accept that the whole day has been set aside just for the sake of getting to another city/country/continent. To me, waiting at home and waiting at the airport is pretty much the same. I have always hated worrying about rushing to catch the plane so I always shoot for earlier. I get that from my dad since he would rather be three hours early than arrive sprinting for the gate. My parents actually balance each other out since my mom wants to cut it as close as she can. My brother and I did not absorb the balanced approach. He takes my mom's habits to an extreme and I am as bad, if not worse, than my dad. Luckily, I rarely have to travel with my brother and when I do, I can be a very annoying alarm clock. 

I recently read a blog post on airport musings. The writer describes airports as interchangeable spaces deliberately made stale to help travelers weather flight transitions. While I agree with how airports have all the same basic elements, I disagree that they lack personality. There are some airports that I will deliberately try to route my flights through. Singapore, Hong Kong, Narita, Bangkok, Detroit are all familiar friends. I know Detroit is kind of random but it was the hub I used to fly back to Manila when I was in college. It was also where I had my first legal drink in the U.S. upon turning twenty one (at Chili's). I am not much of a habit-based person (this drives the Boy crazy since he is nothing if not a giant ball of routine). I tend to alternate what I do daily depending on when I wake up and what I need to accomplish. The only time I really feel the need to indulge a habit is when I am in an airport. In Detroit, I always go to the exact same Japanese restaurant and I always order the exact same meal (Shrimp tempura with udon noodle soup). In Hong Kong, I always go to the same Chinese restaurant and order a last bowl of wonton noodle soup. In Bangkok I have always had airport Thai food to greet me and put me at ease. There is something incredibly relaxing for me in these patterns that I continue (or create) in airports that I become familiar with. 

Then there are the airports that you suffer through. Just as some airports stick with you because of how amazing the amenities are, there are others that haunt you for the hell they put you through. Coron was/is one such. Kota Kinabalu another. There are also a ton in China that are merely points of transition and are pretty much interchangeable because they were all designed by the same architect. Admittedly, the events surrounding your time in an airport will definitely influence how you feel. Flight cancellations, delays, convoluted layouts (I'm looking at you Charles de Gaulle), and absurdly long security lines (Heathrow anyone?) will impact how you view that particular airport. I have witnessed a near-riot (Lhasa), a service strike (Barcelona - cleaners littered the airport with shredded newspaper and played obnoxious vuvuzelas), and been involved in a bomb scare (Kota Kinabalu).

It is a disservice to remove the personality of airports. They are a part of your journey and can sometimes be more eventful than the rest of your trip combined. Whether you love them or hate them, even the blandest airports make an impression no matter how fleeting. 

Here's to all the airports that have housed me, comforted me, and/or terrorized me!   

Monday, December 10, 2012

The Must Do List for Hong Kong

Hong Kong lit up
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Introduction

Hong Kong is one of my absolute favourite places in the world. I was born there and I have been back every single year of my life. During my uprooted childhood, Hong Kong was one of the points of stability that I could always hold on to. In fact, Hong Kong actually mimicked my life. In case you aren't familiar with the city, it is always changing. Stores that have been open for decades close and are filled with whoever can afford the rent. Hong Kong's landscape is ever shifting, to the extent that the water dividing Hong Kong island and Kowloon side has gotten noticeably smaller. Whenever I went back, I used to hope that none of my favourite stores disappeared without a trace, sinking under the crushing weight of rising real estate prices. 

Especially when I was living in New Delhi, Hong Kong was always a respite. All of a sudden I didn't need to worry about food poisoning, I could walk around malls and the streets on my own (or more often with my brother), and it was a shopping mecca. I remember before visiting that my brother and I used to joke and say we would kiss the tarmac upon arriving at the airport. 

Since I only got to visit in one-to-two week bursts, I only ever visited the same places over and over again. This included Wong Sut Bo (Windsor House in Causeway Bay), all other areas of Causeway Bay, Hup Wo (Hopewell Centre in Wan Chai), Pacific Place Mall in Admiralty, Ladies Market in Mong Kok, Golden Arcade Centre in Sham Shui Po (for the video games), and Harbor City Mall in Tsim Tsa Tsui (it had the largest Toys R Us store). When I finally got to live in Hong Kong for a whole year, I realized how much I had missed out on

Since I was remiss in my childhood, I hope to help others who are planning a trip to Hong Kong. Here is a list of my absolute essentials for when you visit the glittering city. As far as I know, all of them are still around! 

*Spoiler, Disneyland is not on here because I haven't been and I don't really have any interest in going. I have heard that it is really kiddy, so if you're into that, head on out.

I give a range of stuff to suit any budget!

 1. Viewing the Nightly Light Show from the Fourth Floor of the IFC

The light show is kind of campy and if you sit in a restaurant that boasts its soundtrack, then you'll just hear some very imposing operatic booming. However, it is a different experience entirely to be sitting nestled at the base between the two IFC towers and watching the lasers shoot off into the sky. Combine this with the fact that this fourth floor has free sitting for everyone and you can't lose.

The IFC is a mall in Central and you can follow the towers or go on the sky walkway (it will have signs) or just walk through the metro. The IFC has two towers and it was from these that Batman leaped in the movie The Dark Night. Once you get to the IFC, go to the fourth floor where there is an outdoor area with a whole bunch of restaurants and bars (if you can't find the escalator up, just look at the mall map). 

There are public seats that may look like they belong to an establishment but are free seating. There will be signs on the tables and you will get a harbor view. Bring a picnic and some drinks and just relax and enjoy the evening. There is even a handy dandy City Super supermarket in the mall. If you really don't want to bring your own food, just head over to any of the restaurants and bars that litter the area and sip on some fancy cocktails. I have never really found it crowded and it is one of my favourite places to go in all of Hong Kong. 

I am also going to put in a little plug for the greatest shortbread cookies I have ever tasted: Jenny Bakery. While not actually located in the IFC, this is in Central and you had best get your grubby fingers on a box of these bad boys. I recommend not going before the holidays because the line is literally around the corner.

2. Star Ferry

You definitely need to go on the Star Ferry. It is very inexpensive and it takes you from Central to Tsim Tsa Tsui. There are a ton of other ferries that take you to other islands a little further, but if you want a nice view of the Hong Kong skyline, then I highly recommend this. Plus, Tsim Tsa Tsui has a nice little waterfront boardwalk when you arrive on the other side. 

3. 1881 Heritage

Now that you've arrived on in TST, just walk straight (with your back to the sea/HK side) and you will run into 1881 Heritage. This is basically an old consulate that has been done up with fancy stores. What is really entertaining about this area is the amount of wedding pictures that get taken here. They literally have a line of bride and groom couples waiting their turn to take identical shots. Some of them have very creative dresses, so it is worth seeing. Plus it is just a pleasant area to be around.

Head over to the Unsettled TCK Gallery for more pictures. 

4. Avenue of Stars

In keeping with the theme of the TST side, go to the Avenue of Stars next. This is technically in East TST, but you can walk from the main boardwalk or, if you don't want to risk getting lost, just head to the nearest metro station and follow the underground signs. You won't know most of the people listed but it has an iconic image of Bruce Lee and it's free! The Starbucks on the waterfront there is also pretty kickass.

5. Bulldog's Bar and Grill Garlic Spicy Chicken Wings

Now that you've worked up an appetite, you are ready for the greatest wings in the world. I know that is a bold claim but I have never tasted better. They are baked/grilled/roasted to almost crispy perfection and are served buried in a mound of fried garlic chips and hot pepper flakes. This was one of the happiest accidents I have ever had. I originally ordered the regular ranch wings and they brought these out by mistake. I have never been more thrilled by a messed up order. They are the ambrosia of the gods and I am actually salivating as I am typing this. I miss Hong Kong. This restaurant is located on a bar strip in East TST. You can get here via the metro (exit P2 from the East TST metro). It also kind of overlooks some water, so it is quite relaxing and lovely to hang out with a beer to accompany your wings. Here is the address:

 Bulldog’s Bar & Grill Kowloon, Shop G5 & UG15, Tsim Sha Tsui Centre, 66 Mody Rd., Tsim Sha Tsui, Hong Kong, Hong 
and the phone number: 2311-6993

Seriously go try these wings, they are worth it!

6. Ladies Market

Continuing on the sights you should see on Kowloon side, head up to Mong Kok next. This is where the Ladies Market is (exit E2 in the metro, it's a bank exit, just head out and walk straight until you hit the stalls). Eat the street food/drink bubble tea, etc. and walk and see if you want some campy souvenirs. Make sure to haggle if you want anything! Be warned that this area is also known for its stinky tofu, so if you're not a fan, cover your nose.   

7. The Peak

Heading back over to the Hong Kong side, go up to the Peak. Definitely take the tram up (you can get to it from one of the Central metro exits, just look at the map). Try to go on a week day to beat the crowds, even in the afternoon, and just spend the day there. I personally think it is a much prettier view at night since the city is just twinkly and lovely. There is a Sky Terrace ticket that you can purchase when you get your tram ticket. The observatory is at the very top of the building shaped kind of like a half moon. You don't have to pay for the Sky Terrace, since there are actually a ton of different places to view the city for free. The Sky Terrace is the highest point though and I don't think it's very expensive if you just want to go ahead and do it.

I usually make a reservation at Bubba Gumps since they are one of the restaurants with window views of the skyline (make sure to emphasize you want a window view) and the food is tasty (especially That Chocolate Thing). Be warned that it isn't the cheapest place on Earth but it makes for a nice night with some nice cocktails.

Head over to the Unsettled TCK Gallery for more pictures. 

8. Dim Sum

YOU HAVE TO HAVE DIM SUM. Sorry for busting out the caps lock, but honestly, this is Hong Kong's food. There are a ton of restaurants that serve dim sum and they range from street fast foody types to fancy restaurants. I personally LOVE Dragon King which is located in the World Trade Centre in Causeway Bay.
If you make a reservation ahead (way ahead, like about a week if not more) you can get a harbor view. If you have never heard of dim sum (or have only tried knock off overseas versions), it is basically an afternoon meal where you are served a ton of appetizer-like foods. Some places have carts and others just paper menus where you mark off a ton of stuff.  

Here are two tips: 1. If you go after 2:00, there is a discount. 2. If everything is only in Chinese, then ask the waiter to help you. Also, order Jasmine tea (heung peen) because it is awesome.  

Definitely order: 

3. Char Siu Bao (barbeque bun)
5. Gon chao ngau hor (flat noodles fried with beef): 干炒牛河

Another innovative dim sum restaurant is Che's in Wan Chai. 

9. Hong Kong Fast Food

A must-eat is wonton mein. Trust me, it is nothing like in the U.S. or any other country! One of my favorite all time dishes. Order it with milk tea (dong nai cha) or ice tea (dong ling cha). Just find a street noodle place and see if they have it. Any other wonton pales in comparison. 

You can also get cheap, good Cantonese fast food at Maxims or Cafe de Coral. These are everywhere. I always get the siu gnap (roast duck) while the Boy prefers char siu fan (BBQ pork rice). 

10. Lan Kwai Fong

When you go to Lan Kwai Fong (the bar district located in Central), and you will go to LKF, definitely head there on a Thursday if you are female since it is ladies night! Explore the bars and don't neglect the street that is behind the Hard Rock Cafe after you go up some stairs. 

If you want a fantastic, out-of-this-world burger, try Gourmet Burger Union. I think it is on Wyndham Street (the street that you walk up these stairs to behind the Hard Rock Cafe). Also get an alcoholic milkshake, they are TASTY.

Blue Smoke BBQ is also great for their personal pies and they are located right across the street from the Hard Rock Cafe. If you are in the mood for German, head to Schnurrbart's which is located on one of the main strips as you walk up to LKF. Great food (I highly recommend their pork knuckle and the sausage platter) and be sure to give their beers a whirl.

Also, as per my post The Kids Are Alright, a fun game to play in LKF (and Wan Chai) is spot the high schooler! These areas are riddled with them, so watch out if you are making a move and make sure that person is legal...

11. Soho

LFK is the party hard area of Hong Kong. If you want a place that is a bit classier, head up to SOHO. You can get there from Queen's Road Central (the main parallel road in Central) via the longest escalator.

There is a great Greek restaurant called Rick's Greek Mezze Bar that I love to go to. You'll see it as you keep going up the escalators.

If you love cupcakes and cakes, head to Vanilla (address in English: 33 Mosque St, Mid-Levels, Hong Kong, Hong Kong). It is actually located in the Mid-Levels, which is further up than SOHO, but they are out of this world. Creamy, melty, and utterly decadent, you won't regret hunting these bad boys down.

12. Causeway Bay/Victoria Park/Chocolate

One of the big tourist/shopping centers is Causeway Bay. It even has a Times Square! The California Pizza Kitchen's Tiramisu is ridiculously good and it is located on one of the top levels of Times Square. Times Square also has a lot of exhibits that they show outside or in the entrance, so go give a look see. 

Also go to Victoria Park and just take a picnic. If you go to the basement floor of Windsor House (the mall that is on the right just before you get to the park when walking from the metro. They have an International supermarket with little sandwiches and wraps and sushi). You should also keep track of whether or not there are any festivals when you go to Hong Kong since they tend to have events at Victoria Park. For the Mid Autumn festival they have lanterns and a nice outdoor booth area. During the winter months they always have an expo and they also do an event for Chinese New Year.

Head over to the Unsettled TCK Gallery for more pictures. 

A little tip for two exquisite chocolate shops around this area:

1. Thomas Trillion is a chocolate shop that is actually located in Tin Hau (just walk across the park and you'll be in Tin Hau). It is ridiculously amazing and you won't actually want to eat the chocolate because they are so beautiful.

2. Paul Lafayet is a chocolate shop located in Windsor House. Their macaroons are ridiculously amazing and so is their Chocolate Craquelin.

If you want chocolate cake, then head over to Awfully Chocolate for some tasty treats.

*13. Estudio Iberico: Best Tapas EVER

****** Must do: I cannot stress how much you need to go visit Estudio Iberico. It is located in the Great supermarket in Pacific Place mall in Admiralty. Definitely order their sangria, which is amazing, and their flan. I love their salad with cheese and jamon. Also, make sure to order their Oscar Seafood Soup, it is to die for. It is a creation of one of the chefs and you won't find it any where else. The food is exquisite and the servers are great. It is also quite unique in that you sit at bar stools. GO!

14. Happy Valley Evening Horse Races

If you are in HK for a Wednesday, go to the horse races. There is a track just on the outskirts of Causeway Bay/Happy Valley. It is only a 10hkd entrance and you can get beer and just chill. The races are only on Wednesday evenings and the whole experience is a ton of fun. I wrote a blog post about this called Happy Valley Race Track: Beer, Gambling, and Horses.

15. Tian Tan Buddha

If you have the time, then I recommend that you head out to the Tian Tan Buddha (this post also talks about Macau and Temple Street, which I didn't include on this list. It is located at the Jordan metro stop). It is a giant Buddha and you get to take a cable car to go see it. Basically take the metro all the way to Tung Chung Station and head for Ngong Ping 360. Even though I had a foggy experience, it was a lot of fun. 

16. Ocean Park

If you have kids, go to Ocean Park. It's a lot of fun, and even if you have some teens there are roller coasters. If you are in Hong Kong for Halloween, then you might want to consider the annual Ocean Park Halloween Bash. Be warned, as I state in my post, that there are a ton of haunted houses, so if that isn't your thing, either avoid Ocean Park or try to purchase this special necklace that leaves you exempt from scares (I couldn't find it to buy it...).

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17. Gigantic Oysters

If you are an oyster connoisseur, then you need to go to Fusion Gourmet in Sheung Wan. Get the Black Diamonds because they are massive, but not too salty. I cannot get enough of these! This is a deli as well as a restaurant (although I wasn't impressed with the main dishes) and they have an extensive wine collection. Head to the first floor for the deli since the fifth floor is an actual restaurant that is fancy. Don't confuse the two!

18. Le Blanc Wan Chai

If you want a fancy, elegant meal, head to Le Blanc in Wan Chai. Basically it has a minimum charge per person, but you get to order as much as you like so that you get to try a ton of stuff while still keeping it at a reasonable price. This is a terrific, romantic restaurant and I highly recommend it. I ended up going with my coworkers, so the romance was muted, but I plan on going back with the Boy some day!

19. Wan Chai Lockhart Road

Having already listed LKF and SOHO, the other bar area (other than TST, which I am not as familiar with) is Wan Chai's Lockhart Road. This is the seedy party zone of Hong Kong. While this is a very long road, if you tell any cab driver "Lockhart Street", they will take you to this one specific area of bars and girly bars. Yes, there are strip clubs here and you can purchase some entertainment if you wish. 

Ladies night here is Wednesday and it can be a lot of fun to go out with a group of friends. Just watch out for all the old white expats (they even have a bar called the White Stag) and you'll be golden!

20. ICC - Tallest Building in Hong Kong/Ozone Bar

Last, but certainly not least, is the ICC which is the tallest building in Hong Kong. It is located on Kowloon side (it is in Kowloon Station, in fact. You can get here by taking the metro line that heads out to the airport and Disneyland) and it is worth visiting.

There is a 360 observatory tower which actually gives you the heights of all the other world's tallest buildings. It isn't at the top, but you are pretty high up there. It is a rather more expensive ticket but you can stay up there as long as you like. Plus the elevator goes up ridiculously fast, if you're into that.

The ICC also boasts the tallest bar in the world: Ozone Bar. It is in the Ritz-Carlton, but it actually has its own set of elevators. Very fancy and definitely a place to bring a date you want to impress. I still prefer the IFC and its free fourth floor view, but I will definitely give Ozone the edge in drinks (experiment with what they have to offer) and creative food.

The End

I hope you have stuck with me through this list. There are a ton of places that I don't have on here (restaurants, mostly) and Hong Kong offers a lot. I love Hong Kong and think it is one of the most fabulous cities in the world. Yes, I even prefer it to Manhattan (it is like Manhattan wrapped around a mountain) since it is more compact and easier for me to navigate around. 

It also boasts what I think is the most extensive and convenient transportation system in the world. I hope you enjoyed this list and that you have a great time exploring this city. Feel free to add stuff that you think I shouldn't have missed in the comments!

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Thursday, November 29, 2012

Guest Post: Unsettled but Happy Part 3

Click on this link and read on for a guest post I wrote for a wonderful blog that offers expat advice for moving, weathering the transition, and helping your kids. The blog is called Your Expat Child and here is part 3:



Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Guest Post: Unsettled but Happy Part 2

Click on this link and read on for a guest post I wrote for a wonderful blog that offers expat advice for moving, weathering the transition, and helping your kids. The blog is called Your Expat Child and here is part 2:


Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Thursday, November 8, 2012

Expats Blog Interview and Competition

Drawing with light in Xining.
For those American readers that I have, I hope you will join me a very sincere sigh of relief that campaign season is OVER (for now). All of those endless ads, the complete standstill of government, and the ridiculous assertions from media sources on both sides will hopefully diminish for quite some time. Elated or disappointed, be proud that there was such a large voter turn out and that we have the freedom to express our views. 

In an effort to move past the unresolved nightmare that is my fickle faulty hard drive, I submitted a piece to a writing competition for Expats Blog. 

It is entitled "The Perils of Shopping" and I would really appreciate it if you took the time to read my submission and spread it wide! 

Click "like" and share it because exposure is one of the factors that the judges will take into consideration. The others are of course content as well as creativity. Please also leave comments and feedback. The contest ends Saturday the 10th of November, so there is a tight time limit on this. 

You can also click here to go to the main contest page in order to vote for me. Just scroll down to the Perils of Shopping and click "like"!

Thank you very much! Also, I was interviewed and you can read it here. I discuss my current move, my upbringing, and what it means to be a TCK. If you were ever curious about me, this is an in-depth interview

Again, please "like" and share my contest submission and don't forget to leave a comment at the bottom! I only have until Saturday, so let's make as much noise as possible!

Monday, November 5, 2012

For the Love of All that is Good, Backup!

My recalcitrant laptop.
My ailing hard drive...
*If you choose not to read the whole of my saga, take away this: BACKUP YOUR COMPUTER. This goes double/triple for those who are on the move. Your computer is being jostled about and exposed to different temperatures and climates.This faithful recorder of your amazing adventures will only last so long and its time at your side is finite. Keep its legacy alive and backup (on multiple devices) often.*  

A week and a half ago, the unthinkable happened. My computer crashed. I know that in the scheme of life and all the misery that exists in the world that this is relatively small. I am healthy, I have food, shelter, clothing, and access to clean water. A disaster has not struck (I hope those who are recovering from Hurricane Sandy have all the help that they need. My thoughts are with you). Life could be a lot worse. However, these rational reassurances do not make this situation any better. It still feels like a combination of a sucker punch to the stomach and life spitting on you in disgust. 

When it happened, I thought it was a minor problem. Just my computer acting up and requiring a hard restart. I only began to catch on to the issue when the laptop refused to boot. It just stopped. Such a small thing to occupy your time with but trust me, your world will narrow to the size of a screen when your machine refuses to work as it should. This particular catastrophe happened on a Saturday night. This cut short a lot of options for fixing the situation and I settled for eating a ton of chocolate and watching the Day After Tomorrow. The next day I ran around town looking for a SATA to USB cable (to connect the internal hard drive to another computer) and a new external hard drive to back up what I could salvage. 

Cost stopped me from buying an external hard drive sooner. I actually have a 300 gigabyte external back up, but pictures take up a lot of room and I had pretty much filled up my 500 gigabyte hard drive by the time this event happened. I had faithfully backed up in July but since a full backup couldn't be completed, I hadn't bothered to do it since. HUGE mistake. In the months since my partial, I had gone all around Alanya, traveled to Japan, and celebrated an anniversary in Cappadocia. I have organized countless folders and written a ton of lessons and articles. I set up a watermark that I was finally happy with. I also didn't know what was backed up on the external that I used in July. Were they all system files, music, some photos, some work? I had no way of knowing until I got my computer back online. The thought of losing everything was just disheartening. All of my photographs, all of my work, everything that I have worked toward and spent hours upon hours on, gone in a second.

I kept waiting to buy a terabyte backup drive and I just kept telling myself to wait another month and save up more money. Do not repeat my mistakes. Spend the money and make sure you have a backup that holds enough room for what you need. Even if you can only do a partial backup on what you have, DO IT. Spend the money and save yourself money later. You are going to have to do it eventually and putting it off will just result in a worse situation. After this happened, I ended up buying the terabyte that I had needed for months and I did not save myself a penny.

After getting the cable, I hurried home and plugged my faulty internal drive into the Boy's working computer. I hoped that I could just retrieve the files and this inconvenience would be at an end. It turns out nothing is ever as simple as you hope it will be. The hard drive couldn't be used unless it was formatted. Formatting erases everything. At this point we googled some recovery programs and sprang for Mini-Tools Data Recovery. It recovers 1 gig (a laughably small number for me) for free and then you have to pay $65. They have a return policy of a month and they claim to be able to restore data from damaged hard drives, which it was clear mine was. 

I set to scanning and the estimated time was 400 hours. I emailed the company and by the time they responded saying that this was not normal and that I should bring it to a specialized recovery company, the remaining time had decreased and the progress bar had moved. I decided to let it continue scanning. It started finding files. Hundreds of thousands of files. I can't even begin to explain to you the relief that I felt. Since it was clearly going to take days, I ended up buying a new internal hard drive. This ended up being an adventure in itself because I had no backup Windows 7 operating system. We downloaded it and burned it on a disk only to find out that the computer wasn't reading the disk and wouldn't launch the installation. We then reformatted the internal hard drive, just in case that would fix the problem. The next morning we tried again, to no avail. We then tried to put the Windows operating system on a USB thumb drive. This ended up working, however the installation stalled and claimed to be unable to find a partition to install the information in. It was lying because it clearly identified 500 gigs of available space, it just refused to acknowledge it. 

Through the industrious labor of the Boy, we figured out that maybe we had reformatted the disk to an incorrect format. So then we spent another handful of hours rectifying this issue. Success! One thing went right and I finally had a working laptop after four days. 

Quick note, the Mini-Tools Recovery Program is very thorough and it will identify every single drive connected to the computer it is run on. We had forgotten to unplug the only backup I had and once the program started it refused to allow us to remove any of the drives that were connected. So while I had a working computer I still had no idea what I had left from the wreckage of my capricious machine.

Finally, on day five of the recovery process, the recovery bar was at 90% and it had found over 300,000 files. I figured that I was in the homestretch. I will be completely honest: Nothing is worse than having your hope crushed, the life drained out of the bright light that you had been clinging to. Defeat is disappointing, failure is crushing, but holding onto a tenuous thread of hope that keeps getting thinner and thinner trumps them all. When I checked the Boy's laptop the next day, the screen flashed white and then black. His video card had stopped working. After waiting and crying (me), we hard restarted his computer.  

I took this as an opportunity to disengage the secondary that contained the iffy backup. When we reopened the program, I saw the worst thing that you can see at this stage: 0%. Disappointment, failure, and the smashed up remains of my hope were all that greeted me. 

Then even worse, the progress bar moved and sped through the initial scan. Hope flickered temporarily back to life. It grew stronger and stronger as I saw the remaining time at a mere 75 hours. Maybe because of the prior scanning, this would go faster! While attempting to cling to this delusion, I took this opportunity to check what I did have. 

It was more than I was expecting. I have all of my photos up until time of the backup. I have all of my writing. I have some of my music. It could have been worse. 

By the time I had checked everything, the recovery program was up to an admirable 10%. Unfortunately it hadn't found a single file. Not one. All of the numbers next to all the various file types that are possible have stayed stubbornly at 0. We are now around 50% and still nada. I have no idea where those 300,000 files went. Did they disapparate (Harry Potter reference) in a flash of white and black? My hope, which had expanded so gloriously, is being smothered into submission once more. The sad thing is that I still hold a guttering belief that this might still turn out. I just wish I knew. If I need to cope, then I want to be able to accept the loss of my work. If I need to rejoice, then I need to know to break out the wine and then back up everything over and over again. I just need to know.  

For those who have been following my Facebook page, thank you for bearing with my slew of computer updates. I realize they are not as thrilling as faraway travel or as thoughtful as musings on identity, but this is something everyone can experience. So learn from me and for the love of all that is good and bright in the world, backup. 

I will post one last comment on this when I know if the tears are gushing or if the wine will be flowing.

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Nightmare Before Christmas Bash

A Nightmare Before Christmas themed party wouldn't be complete without candy, presents, and spiders.
*Sorry for the quality of the photos, this was before I got my DSLR*

It is a week before Halloween. Life has gotten in the way and now you have a party scheduled but no decorations and no idea what to do. As you scramble for something, anything to give your home a spooky feel, you turn to the internet. And hopefully you will find this post because I will tell you have to salvage your party. This applies also if you want a creative costume for a party that you were invited to that is not store bought.

During my fourth year in university, the Boy and I decided to go all out for our last Halloween celebration in Charlottesville. The following year we would be who knows where trying to get through his research period. The likelihood of a good Halloween celebration in the middle-of-nowhere-China/India was next to nil and so was the possibility of dressing up with friends (we actually ended up in Hong Kong and had the dubious pleasure of attending Halloween at Ocean Park, click to read my post on it). Since we are both avid Nightmare Before Christmas fans, that seemed to be the most interesting idea for a theme. However, we are both procrastinators and allowed school to get in the way. This put us in the situation that I described at the beginning of this post, however this post did not exist so I had no one to guide me. 

I graduated successfully, so I can be honest: we both dropped everything to do with classes and focused the entire week on this project. Papers, exercises, and reading all came to a standstill. While I was required to attend classes, I did the absolute minimal in order to make it through before returning to my actual priority. We decided to make everything from scratch (or as much as was practical) and what follows is a how-to guide to recreate what ended up being a very successful extravaganza.

What the apartment looked like for most of that week before Halloween...
Warning: this requires two people to manage if you don't want to go crazy.  
Also I want to preface this by saying that I had/have absolutely no skills with sewing.

You can do with a budget of about $100, less/more depending on the quality of materials you choose to buy.

Step 1: The Scene

The premise of Nightmare Before Christmas (for the two people that don't know) is a hostile Halloween take over of Christmas. In this Tim Burton world holidays are separated into distinct realms and each of these is pretty ignorant of the others. The king of Halloween Town, Jack Skellington, is bored. He is tired of the same scares year after year. He ends up finding the door to Christmas Town and chaos ensues. 

We thought this would be a lot of fun because you get to decorate for two holidays, bringing a little brightness to one and darkness to the other. One of the most important parts of pulling off a rocking party is to have a great atmosphere and set of decorations. Here is what you will need:

1. Twinkle lights - get some white and orange twinkle lights and hang them around your apartment/house. Concentrate on the entrance area and where you think the most people will congregate (which always seems to be the kitchen...). 


Oogie Boogie glows in the soft lighting of the white twinkle lights.

Orange twinkle lights and cobwebs make for a spooky Halloween.
2. A small Christmas tree - I love Christmas and I had a year round three foot tall fiber optic Christmas tree. We put this on a table and put candy in addition to presents underneath. Choose any combination of candy that you want. If you have trick-or-treaters, it also makes for a handy place to grab a handful. 

The tinsel on the Christmas tree was created by shredding wrapping paper.
You can also use some empty granola boxes and wrap it in silver wrapping paper with black ribbon. Put these "presents" underneath the Christmas tree for show. 

Our empty decorative presents.
3. Webbing - Go to any store and buy some of that white stretchy gauze-like fake spider web stuff. Then divide it into maybe four or five piles. Take one pile and cover half of your Christmas tree.

Spooky tree that really embodies Nightmare Before Christmas.

Then use the remaining to cover lamps and the backs of chairs and in doorways. You can even use the twinkle lights to hang the stuff. 

Love the cobwebs!
4. Fake bugs - Buy some cheap plastic spiders and bugs and hide them around the apartment. Definitely put some in the candy pile underneath the Christmas tree.    

5. Stockings - We got some cheap Christmas stockings and then filled them with candy and spiders.

Haunted stockings filled with candy!

Step 2: Oogie

 This was one of the more difficult aspects of the party. We wanted to create our very own burlap Oogie Boogie. We went to Marshalls and bought some burlap fabric (if you happen to have a burlap sack lying around that works too). Our oogie was about 4 feet tall and about 2.5-3 feet wide (he was very squat). So buy enough fabric for that and then buy 2 feet by 2 feet of cloth  for his head. Then you need to get some cloth for both of his arms. Use thick black yarn to sew him together. You finally need black cloth for his mouth and his eyes. 

Cut his head into a triangle so that when you bring the sides together at the back, it makes a cone. His arms are also cones and they are sewn onto the top two corners. The body can remain a square but when you sew it together, create a little pocket on the bottom two tips so that they become his feet. After you have his basic shape, start stuffing with used newspaper or anything recyclable that you have lying around. In the movie he is made up of bugs so you definitely want to create a consistency that is both airy and solid. 

What Oogie started as...

Little handheld sewing machine did the trick for him. Crude but useful.

Fold the cloth in to create a nice line.

The outline of Oogie Boogie.

Partway through stuffing Oogie Boogie with newspaper.

Oogie has arms!
When sewing his face, cut two triangles for his eyes and an oval for his mouth. When you stuff his head, try to push in the mouth so it looks like he is about to say something insane. Finally sew his head on when you have completed everything else.

Sewing the back of Oogie's head. Don't worry, make the lines as messy as you want.

His face. Pull in the thread to help create the depressions.

The head of Oogie Boogie.
If you find your Oogie is too small to fit the space you intended, fill up a giant black bag (we used tarp) with recyclable material and sit him on top. The "trash" bag is supposed to represent Santa Claus (he gets kidnapped in a trash bag in the movie), so feel free to tie off the end and put a little label of "Santa Claus" to really give it a good presentation.

Christmas tree - check. Cobwebs - check. Presents - check. Santa Claus in a trash bag - check. 

In case there was any doubt...

Step 3: Costumes

Being frugal college students and grad students, we wanted to make our own costumes. We hit up Goodwill and got a cheap black suit that kind of fit him and we got me a nude slip. 

I actually printed out a picture of Sally (Jack Skellington's love interest) and took it to Marshalls and wrangled the helper-woman into getting fabric that matched her outfit. After that it was a matter of laying down the slip and fitting/cutting all the colored fabric so it matched.

I used a sewing machine. Since I didn't own one, we got a cheap one from Walmart with plans to return it after use. Well, it ended up breaking down. So we exchanged it for another one. That one didn't work, so we had to exchange it for a third machine. Finally in business, I set to the tedious task of getting all those scraps to match up. Make sure you don't sew through both layers of the slip. Also make sure that the slip material doesn't bunch because it will shrink and you might not be able to fit in... Makeup-wise, get some black face paint and paint sewing lines on your wrists, arms, legs, and maybe neck. Also do it on the outer corners of your lips.

The cursed sewing machine...

The nude slip and the various fabric strewn about.

Starting to piece it together.

Soft illuminated glow from the sewing machine.

Loved this setting for Sally's dress.

A completed dress for Sally from Nightmare Before Christmas. Sorry there are no shots of me in it!
For the suit we got some cheap white paint from Marshall's. First we used masking tape to create lines on the pants and the jacket before painting. You need to ensure that you have a lot of paint because we ended up running out and then had to make do with some shimmery silver stuff. Do not make our mistake. Another important thing to keep in mind is time. Do this ahead because it takes forever to dry! Do the same with his tie. Just buy a big styrofoam clown style tie and cut it so that there are three ends. Paint it in white stripes.

For Jack's makeup get some white face and go to town. Then rub in black in the sockets of your eyes and wear some black lipstick and trace skeletal lines at the corners of your mouth. Top off Jack's outfit with a Christmas hat and you're good to go! 

The tie painted black and white.

Jack Skellington's suit half-made!

This is when we ran out of paint...

Jack Skellington's pants.

Make up for Jack Skellington.

The full complete costume.

Step 4: Games - Bobbing and Pumpkins

 Every good Halloween party needs some games. We had bobbing for mini-bottles (just grab an assortment from your nearest ABC or alcohol store) and carving pumpkins. We also had a couple costume competitions (best singles and couples).

These two ladies didn't want to stick their faces into the water, so they used their hands.

She was a champ!

What the water looked like after we were done...

Pumpkins awaiting their carved fate.

Step 5: Presents/Prizes

In addition to the fake wrapped presents, we also included some real presents that served as prizes for the competitions we held. We bought some bottles of alcohol and candy and any little inexpensive trinkets and then wrapped them in the silver wrapping paper and the black ribbons. We even had a couple of presents that were wrapped in black paper with silver ribbons.

The prize/presents for our games.

Step 6: Haunted house entryway

If you have the time and the inclination, this is a must-do step. To really set the scene for your party, you need a spectacular entry way. The boy actually created a mini-haunted house by buying so wooden pillars and nailing them onto the fence of his patio. Then we wrapped black tarp around the sides and created a ceiling. I spray painted scenes from the movie that would glow in the dark. We also carved a pumpkin to look like the pumpkin shown at the beginning of the film. 

You can get poles like these from Home Depot or Lowe's.

Wrapping the tarp.

My attempt at creating scenes from Nightmare Before Christmas.

What it looked like from the outside. This attracted a lot of trick or treaters!

Pumpkin unlit.

Much creepier when lit.
Finally, our coup de grace was the Halloween town tree on the doorway. We bought some construction paper and created a tree with a pumpkin on it and the handle of the door right where it was in the movie. This was really easy to do and even if you don't have time to make the haunted house feel, then you can definitely do this. 

The face of Halloween Town.

Entryway to Halloween Town from Nightmare Before Christmas.
I hope this was helpful! Sorry if I can't be more exact but hopefully the pictures help. 

Happy Halloween and have a Merry Christmas ;)